Most of the inter-personal struggles in life can be traced back to our own egos and these are greatly shaped by the wounds, both real and imagined, that we received from our parents & peers in childhood.  A verse of great value to me over the years comes out of the Bible.  “When I was a child I spake as a child, but now that I am a man I put aside childish things.” This speaks to me a great truth. When we look at the formative events of our past we often remember them in the same emotional setting in which they occurred.  These events that we remember most are generally painful ones from our youth and they often carry the same emotional components as when they first happened in childhood.  We need to take this into account and relive our emotional memories with the more mature knowledge and breadth of vision that advancing years bring.  

    This technique of reliving painful childhood memories with the knowledge of maturity is called “re-framing.” One simply re-visualizes the event in question and instead of the focus being on our personal pain, we shift the focus, paying attention to other parts of our memory. Within the memory there are always parts being ignored because we are so focused on our (see above statement about ego) personal pain. Being able to see the rest of the memory without the cloud of self absorbed personal pain will allow a person to find the redemptive part of the picture. Once the redemptive part is located then attention can be shifted to that area and a whole new dimension of healing will flood the memory. Some people call it finding God in the picture.